The aftermath of porn is devastating. For this man it left him physically and mentally ill, depressed and a feeling that swelled behind his eyes - an itchy, piercing pain.
But let's read his full story.
For 20 years novelist Benjamin Obler had been addicted to porn.
Outwardly he appeared successful, happy and perfectly able to form long-lasting relationships, even marrying. But inwardly Ben was in turmoil.
Now sober from porn, he says:
"As a porn user, I valued women as objects of my gratification and potential sexual partners. Once a woman became a former sexual partner, she had no value to me.
As for women I didn’t know, I could hardly see an attractive woman in public without looking at her body. Nor could I stop myself noticing a woman’s unattractive features. Critical thoughts formed in my head at the sight of a woman I thought unshapely, fat, short, plain, or ugly."
In 2006 he was married and while working, owning his own home and being a published novelist, he realized something was wrong.
He explains: "I'm not happy. Every day, compulsively, I use internet pornography. I skip work, I’m depressed, I lie and keep secrets about my habits. But I cannot quit it, and I’m at my wits’ end.
Everything is sexual to me, and only sexual arousal sates my brain, which is hooked on more than a decade of daily dopamine saturation, fueled by internet porn."
Until he made a decision to break free...
Ben grew up in had a "library of pornography in a certain two-drawer cabinet".
"Sex-crazed women pervaded all walks of life, as eager to flaunt their nudity as I was to see it," he said. The advent of online porn fed his obsession even more.
Porn was making him physically ill.
He explains: "For months I’d been experiencing lethargy, achiness, appetite problems. I was moody, my sleep erratic.
I frequently had frightening and violent dreams, my nocturnal kicking and thrashing ...The worst symptom was a feeling that swelled behind my eyes - an itchy, piercing pain."
Benjamin is now sober after joining a therapy group for 12 months.
*Is this man's story your story? Nothing good comes out of porn. It always leaves a bitter taste in the mouth. It will offer a short time of pleasure and a lifetime of turmoil.
Many men (and women) are battling this porn disease right now cos it's ruining their lives and their relationships. Please don't start porn if you haven't and if you are already caught in it, break free.
Until you really desire to break free from porn, you will never do so. The desire is the first step. Porn is breeding a sick, loveless, sex-crazed and perverse society.
Don't sit down and watch porn destroy your life. Ask for the Lord's help NOW.
But it's unfortunate to say that some people do not realize yet the damage porn is doing to their entire existence.
But let's read his full story.
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| Benjamin Obler |
For 20 years novelist Benjamin Obler had been addicted to porn.
Outwardly he appeared successful, happy and perfectly able to form long-lasting relationships, even marrying. But inwardly Ben was in turmoil.
Now sober from porn, he says:
"As a porn user, I valued women as objects of my gratification and potential sexual partners. Once a woman became a former sexual partner, she had no value to me.
As for women I didn’t know, I could hardly see an attractive woman in public without looking at her body. Nor could I stop myself noticing a woman’s unattractive features. Critical thoughts formed in my head at the sight of a woman I thought unshapely, fat, short, plain, or ugly."
In 2006 he was married and while working, owning his own home and being a published novelist, he realized something was wrong.
He explains: "I'm not happy. Every day, compulsively, I use internet pornography. I skip work, I’m depressed, I lie and keep secrets about my habits. But I cannot quit it, and I’m at my wits’ end.
Everything is sexual to me, and only sexual arousal sates my brain, which is hooked on more than a decade of daily dopamine saturation, fueled by internet porn."
Until he made a decision to break free...
Ben grew up in had a "library of pornography in a certain two-drawer cabinet".
"Sex-crazed women pervaded all walks of life, as eager to flaunt their nudity as I was to see it," he said. The advent of online porn fed his obsession even more.
Porn was making him physically ill.
He explains: "For months I’d been experiencing lethargy, achiness, appetite problems. I was moody, my sleep erratic.
I frequently had frightening and violent dreams, my nocturnal kicking and thrashing ...The worst symptom was a feeling that swelled behind my eyes - an itchy, piercing pain."
Benjamin is now sober after joining a therapy group for 12 months.
*Is this man's story your story? Nothing good comes out of porn. It always leaves a bitter taste in the mouth. It will offer a short time of pleasure and a lifetime of turmoil.
Many men (and women) are battling this porn disease right now cos it's ruining their lives and their relationships. Please don't start porn if you haven't and if you are already caught in it, break free.
Until you really desire to break free from porn, you will never do so. The desire is the first step. Porn is breeding a sick, loveless, sex-crazed and perverse society.
Don't sit down and watch porn destroy your life. Ask for the Lord's help NOW.
But it's unfortunate to say that some people do not realize yet the damage porn is doing to their entire existence.
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