CEO of Roverman Productions, Ebo Whyte, has advised unmarried ladies
not to settle for irresponsible men due to pressure from society to get
married.
The celebrated play-write advised that "finding a life partner is tantamount to finding the father of your children so ladies should not compromise at all."
“There is no bigger position than that. The standard must be absolute highest because if you lower the standards you’ll be apologizing to your children in the future,” he said.
Ebo Whyte was discussing the issue of young ladies being coerced into marriage due to societal pressure.
“I have advised young ladies that when someone wants to force you, just tell them…show me the store for husbands and I will go and buy some,” he joked.
He argued that marriage was not as rosy as it may be made to seem hence the need for young people to exercise patience before entering into the life-long union.
"Courtship is always sweeter than marriage. All it takes to have a successful courtship is love. But when courtship moves to become marriage love becomes useless.
"Commitment, being sensitive to each other, being thoughtful and respectful. Those issues become very important after marriage but many of us still enter marriage with the same idea of courtship."
He described how difficult it is to resolve an issue as a married couple compared to when you are courting.
"In courtship, you can just leave your partner's house and have some space to cool off and then make-up again. In marriage, however, you will return to the same house and the same room so it is difficult to get space to clear your head,” he said.
"Even your partner’s body language may make you angrier.
The way I take something and put it back on the table can annoy you…you’ll be like 'look at him'."
Giving an analogy, Ebo said he used to play a game to determine the relationship status of couples he sees in a car.
“When I see a couple chatting and laughing heartily together in a car, I conclude they are boyfriend, girlfriend or married man, mistress.
But when the man is straight-faced driving and the woman is looking unconcerned outside the window, then they’re husband and wife”.
People just make marriage seem rosy to make you enter so you can experience the difficulty too. They will push you to marry and when you complain to them they will say 'oh that is how it is'," he said.
*Sure, nobody should be pressurized into marriage cos truth is that so many people go into marriage unprepared. Marriage is a school. It has it's challenges, but why do we go to school? To become a better person. In a school you don't run out when things get tough. You weather it and win.
And there are beautiful marriages, I no go lie. I am a witness. Lol. But no matter how beautiful a marriage is, they must have issues. But rather than allow those issues bring them down, they use it as a spring board to greater heights. It strengthens the marriage.
Do you quit school because you failed a test? No. You keep working on it until you pass it and move on to the next level.
Don't let the devil tell you marriage isn't beautiful. God created it and made it beautiful. But we must lay the foundation of our marriage right, on God and His Word.
Don't go into it unprepared. Don't be pressurized. Don't stop dating even after you both are married cos in God's eyes, you are still very much boyfriend and girlfriend with legal right to sex! Lol . Work out your marriage. Make it fun. It's up to you.
The celebrated play-write advised that "finding a life partner is tantamount to finding the father of your children so ladies should not compromise at all."
“There is no bigger position than that. The standard must be absolute highest because if you lower the standards you’ll be apologizing to your children in the future,” he said.
Ebo Whyte was discussing the issue of young ladies being coerced into marriage due to societal pressure.
“I have advised young ladies that when someone wants to force you, just tell them…show me the store for husbands and I will go and buy some,” he joked.
He argued that marriage was not as rosy as it may be made to seem hence the need for young people to exercise patience before entering into the life-long union.
"Courtship is always sweeter than marriage. All it takes to have a successful courtship is love. But when courtship moves to become marriage love becomes useless.
"Commitment, being sensitive to each other, being thoughtful and respectful. Those issues become very important after marriage but many of us still enter marriage with the same idea of courtship."
He described how difficult it is to resolve an issue as a married couple compared to when you are courting.
"In courtship, you can just leave your partner's house and have some space to cool off and then make-up again. In marriage, however, you will return to the same house and the same room so it is difficult to get space to clear your head,” he said.
"Even your partner’s body language may make you angrier.
The way I take something and put it back on the table can annoy you…you’ll be like 'look at him'."
Giving an analogy, Ebo said he used to play a game to determine the relationship status of couples he sees in a car.
“When I see a couple chatting and laughing heartily together in a car, I conclude they are boyfriend, girlfriend or married man, mistress.
But when the man is straight-faced driving and the woman is looking unconcerned outside the window, then they’re husband and wife”.
People just make marriage seem rosy to make you enter so you can experience the difficulty too. They will push you to marry and when you complain to them they will say 'oh that is how it is'," he said.
*Sure, nobody should be pressurized into marriage cos truth is that so many people go into marriage unprepared. Marriage is a school. It has it's challenges, but why do we go to school? To become a better person. In a school you don't run out when things get tough. You weather it and win.
And there are beautiful marriages, I no go lie. I am a witness. Lol. But no matter how beautiful a marriage is, they must have issues. But rather than allow those issues bring them down, they use it as a spring board to greater heights. It strengthens the marriage.
Do you quit school because you failed a test? No. You keep working on it until you pass it and move on to the next level.
Don't let the devil tell you marriage isn't beautiful. God created it and made it beautiful. But we must lay the foundation of our marriage right, on God and His Word.
Don't go into it unprepared. Don't be pressurized. Don't stop dating even after you both are married cos in God's eyes, you are still very much boyfriend and girlfriend with legal right to sex! Lol . Work out your marriage. Make it fun. It's up to you.
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