God is NOT interested in your VIRGINITY...(A must read)

I wrote this article for 'ACHIEVING SEXUAL PURITY', a closed group on Facebook. I believe it will be a lot of blessing those who read it. Here it is:

'I know my title will raise eyebrows but before you make your conclusions please go through this write up first😀. 

After reading the comments yesterday, I found something quite disturbing and it came with this particular question - "Please I wanna ask if the head of the penis enters the vagina could there be a possibility of loosing virginity?" 

In all sincerity my first thought was, "Why is this question even necessary?" 

So it prompts me to ask, *who really is a virgin? Is God interested in your virginity? Is virginity a symbol for sexual purity?*

I took the liberty to consult my dictionary concerning the meaning of the 'Virgin' word. It says: a virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse. 

So we can rightfully say one is still a virgin (technically) if she has never had penetrative sex, right? 

It brings us to the next question: *Is virginity a symbol of sexual purity*? If I am to rephrase it,  I'd say, "Does it mean every virgin is sexually pure?" 

This is where most of us get it all wrong. Virginity is NOT ALWAYS the symbol of sexual purity. 

Understand this please so you don't get it all mixed up: Sexual purity is NOT about being 'a virgin' ; It's a about a well-rounded purity of your mind as well as your body. 

*You can be a virgin and not be sexually pure and you can be sexually pure and be a virgin*. Kapish?  

Some people are more interested in being a technical virgin, that is they work so hard at keeping their hymen intact whilst they do other 'sexual things'. They want to enjoy all the pleasures of sex and still keep their hymen intact. Ask them and they will tell you, "Of course I am a virgin,"  but that's not virginity the way God wants it. He wants you stay away from every form of sexual immorality that may or may not involve penetration. 

These people pollute their minds with porn. They masturbate. They 'half-insert' (let me borrow that word) the penis, have oral sex etc and still be claiming virgin because in their definition of sexual purity it's about being a virgin (unbroken hymen) and since they've never had penetrative sex they are still virgins (technically). 

Wrong!

Therefore, is God actually interested in your virginity? Don't get it twisted. Sexual purity starts from the heart. God is  NOT interested  in  your  virginity. HE  IS  INTERESTED  IN  YOUR  HEART, first and foremost before anything else. Afterall,  there are still people out there who are 'technical virgins', they've never had penetrative sex but are not born again. Ask the singer Adokiye. Remember her? The lady who promised her virginity in exchange for the Chibok girls. 

A technical virgin is one who have not had actual penetrative sex (meaning her hymen is prolly still intact) but engages in other non-penetrative sexual activities. 

So let's stop this question about hymens, half-insertions, tip insertions and all (for people who ask this with a mischievous motive). You may have an unbroken hymen, but be sexually impure! You may be a virgin and not be sexually pure. 

That's why this group  is about 'achieving sexual purity'  not 'achieving virginity'. *Anybody can be a virgin but it takes someone sold out to Christ to be sexually pure.* 

When you think of sexual purity let it run in two ways: purity of your mind first, then purity of your body. *Sexual purity starts from your mind, your heart. If your heart is not sexually pure but you are a 'virgin', your virginity is worthless before God*. 

Work hard at having a clean heart and a pure mind before anything cos all that we truly are flows from the heart.  

Someone said, "Sexual purity applies to both our actions and our attitudes.  It is the decision to guard your heart and mind by not allowing impure thoughts or attitudes take over." 

New Life Center defines sexual purity as 'not even dwelling on thoughts of sex with someone other than a spouse. Until you are married, sexual purity means saying no to sexual intercourse, oral sex, and even sexual touching.' 

Sexual purity holds not just for the unmarried people but for the married. That's why it's beyond being a virgin or having penetrative sex, it's about choosing to worship God with your body. 

So stop paying attention to your hymen and start paying attention to the Holy Spirit. 

Thank God for those who once were sexually active but have decided to save sex for marriage not because of anything but simply because they have chosen to honor God their bodies. Honor God in your thoughts. Honor Him in the secret and in the open. He seeks your heart first not your virginity! 

What am I saying? Sexual purity is NOT about being a virgin; it's about honoring God in and with our bodies. And if we must effectively honor God in our bodies, it must start from the heart. 

That's why I believe that God is not interested in your  virginity. He is interested in first, your heart before your virginity.'

*Mitchelle Obatu* for ASP

I am an advocate for sexual purity and love to encourage everyone to do same, whether you are single or married. Don't be a slave to sexual immorality. 

If you are between 18-29 years old and you care to join us on Facebook just look for Achieving Sexual Purity...God's standards...not the world's!