Please Help! Is Love Enough For Me to Marry Her?

I was listening to a radio program talking about relationships. One of the hostesses made a comment: That when there is love, that is a pointer that he is the right person to marry. My heart leaped in objection. In as much as her statement sounded so right, yet it is so false. Tell me, how many people get married today if not because they were in love? Practically everyone. And how many marriages have survived after few months? You know the answer. So if love is the only basis for taking the ring, then there should be no divorces since most people get married because they were so in love. So even though love is important in this case but it can’t be the only determining factor. Most people over look another very important criteria: Purpose.
Purpose in marriage gives the couple the will to go on, that even when those differences come, because you are convinced in your spirit that you both were meant to be, it gives you the will to work things through. Nowadays, when a marriage goes wrong, you hear statements like, “ I didn’t marry the ‘right’ person.” So the person keeps going on and on in and out of relationships just to find the Mr Right? Are you for real?! So who exactly is your Mr Right or Miss Right? That ‘right’ person is the one you are bound with in love and purpose. The person whom you have made up your mind to stay with forever no matter the odds, working out your differences in love. That is your Mr/Miss Right. Because as long as both of you are two unique people, differences will come.

Purpose minded couple know that God is bringing them together in marriage for a common task that is beneficial both to them, their family, the society and above all to God. They have set their hearts to pleasing and glorifying the Lord.
So don’t rush off and get married because you feel you are so in love. Love is not enough. Learn to look beyond those physical qualities and look inside. Someone once told me that if she was looking at physical attributes rather than purpose when she chose a husband, she wouldn’t be married to her husband today. So many rich guys were coming for her hand in marriage but the man she chose was a simple Banker. Though she loved him, if she was not purpose minded, she would have by passed him and married someone else. Anybody can fall in love with anybody but not anybody can be bound to anybody in purpose.
A purpose minded person knows that money isn’t everything, that God is. So he sets his heart on eternal things and not on the temporal. That’s why today, many people make mistakes. One minute they are so drunk in love and the next minute into marriage they are calling it quits because ‘they are no longer happy’. Such people see marriage as something you can walk in and out of once your selfish criterias are not met but they forget that marriage is all about selflessness. For those whose marriage were based on physicality, once the physical attributes evaporates so does their love.
Love and purpose, when hand in hand makes the bond tighter and the connection deeper. There is a reason , a motivation to keep on. Search deeper, the inner beauty, the purpose. Don’t end up married because you want to be happy, seek purpose and purpose comes with joy. Always ask: how does so and so fit into God’s plan for me and my future? What’s her passion? Don’t just pray about these questions, ask her. Yes, love comes first. It brings the spark, the attraction of whether he or she is the one. But don’t stop there. Sit down as a friend and inquire about her hopes and dreams. What is she living for? Is she living for herself or for God? Does it tally with the vision God has given for your life? Your choice of a life partner can make or mar your future. It’s not a decision made while standing. It is made while sitting.
I won’t mind hearing from you. What are your thoughts?