Dear Married Couples! Is the spark of your love life going off?

It’s so exciting to be in love. Wow! It’s such a powerful feeling. Your heart sings in the morning and you walk on air all day long. You wake up feeling good! And the thought of him…or her, to hear his/her voice sends the ripples down your spine in a delicious way. Yeah, I can see you nodding. You feel me, right? It’s a beautiful thing many people have enjoyed before the ‘I do’ ,yet this precious thing have been left untended by some for whatever reason after the ‘I do’.
When the spark is there, you just can’t wait to get home to him, to see him smile, have him hold you ‘protectively’ in his strong big arms. But like a plant left untended will die so will your love life die if you ignore it or take it for granted.
Marriage does not work itself out. It takes the two people involved to ‘deliberately’ work it out. I used the word deliberately because it is something that requires a conscious effort in order to produce results.
Couples get married, have kids (or not) and marital responsibilities start hitting them left, right and center: There are bills to pay, children to be catered for, business to manage etc, then they let the romantic side of their marriage die. When we allow ourselves to be choked by marital responsibilities and let the romantic side of our marriage suffer, marriage becomes cold, stereotyped, business as usual and excruciatingly boring. So we have to learn to balance the two because both are as important as the other. Having children around especially when they are still very young can restrain you from focusing on each other or spending quality time with each other but no matter what create time. There is always a way. That’s why it is deliberate. Make no room for distractions from family or friends. Allow nothing and no one interrupt your love flow.

Romance creates excitement and also enhances the couples love for each other. It keeps the union alive. So inasmuch as the couple make out time to spend with their children as a family, they should also make out time to spend as a couple, away from the usual family life wahala and the children’s constant whining just to be alone like they used to do before the children came.
So what can the couple do? When last did you steal away for a weekend getaway in a hotel away from the children? Or it could be a day off together, a dinner for two, a date at the spa or any other wonderful idea you may come up with. What matters is that you always make out time to be alone with your spouse, to talk, listen and flirt with each other *wink*. Have fun. Also remember to pray together. When God sees you both making efforts to enjoy your marriage, He will definitely lend you a hand and heal every area of your married life that may be suffering, even your sex life. It is God’s will that you enjoy your marriage not endure it.

*Waiting patiently to see your comment… yes you. *smiles*