Why Marriages Don't Last? These Could Be the Reasons...

Marriage is a very serious issue. So before you step into it, stop and answer the questions below. It will help you know how ready you are to go the extra mile.
One: Are you getting married for superficial reasons?
When you choose your spouse based on wealth, beauty, fame , affluence or just to be happy, then you will be building on a very shaky ground. These things are temporary and there is no assurance that they will last forever. Even if they do, it's in only in marriage that you will discover how foolish your choice had been.That those qualities didn't matter at all. They don't keep you married. If you choose a man because he is rich or a woman because she is beautiful, or due to her figure, then you will be making a huge marital mistake. If those things mattered, Jennifer Lopez, for example, would stay married. But she had kept going in and out of marriages. Is that not enough reason to choose carefully and wisely? Now when you depend on these outward features for the choice of a life partner, when they go, so will your love because your love isn't deeply rooted but rather it is based on what the person has or don't have. Those things are transient objects which can be here today and gone tomorrow. But choosing your spouse based on inner attributes which last and even go a long way in sustaining the union is what is needful at this point. Like God, don't get impressed by what you see on the outside. It's very true that as humans our first attraction is what we see. It's OK. You've seen her and you like her, get closer to know her. Is her beauty merely a camouflage of what she really is? Don't get distracted by his fame or her beauty just yet. Discover the real person inside because if you allow yourself to be swayed or misguided by the outside, it will take you just few minutes into married life to regret it. So save your self that stress.
Two: Are you entering married life with the wrong mentality?
It's important you get your mentality right before stepping into marriage else you'd learn it the hard way(like most people do). It's so easy for an unmarried person to dream of a perfect, bliss-all-the-way kind of marriage and forget that marriage, just like life, comes with its own challenges that tend to rock it either to a stand still, to a breaking point or to a higher level, depending on how you tackle it. Now when you get married with this sort of mentality where you think that married life is like courtship, you will get the greatest disappointment of your life. Marriage is a bitter sweet experience. It's not gonna be sweet all the way. Troubles will come. Your differences will come into play but what matters is how you both will be able to handle them. Doting activities may not even be as frequent as it used to be when you were courting, but take heart. It's not a sure sign that he/she loves you less. But all in all, don't neglect doting on your spouse if the spark must be retained. Another mindset some people enter married life with is the thought that sex will be as often as everyday. When they finally get married and their 24/7 sex expectations are not met, they think something's wrong. Bear this in mind, according to research, sex between average couple is about 2 times a week. So please, marriage is not sex all the way like you presume.
Three: Are you entering into married life with a sense of purpose?
Sorry to say this, but 'love' is not enough to stay married. It's one thing to get married and it's another thing to stay married. If sexual love was enough, we wouldn't be having this high rate of divorce.Remember that these people who are divorced today got married because they were in love, so what happened?
Marriage trains us. It builds us. Marriage makes us more matured and responsible. It opens our eyes to see that sexual love isn't just enough for a couple to stay married. For a union to last it must be garnished with unconditional love(the God-kind of love that loves one without reason), tolerance (over looking your spouse's faults), trust and forgiveness.Ever wondered why the spate of divorce between two people who appeared so in love calling off their marriage 2 weeks, 7 months or a year later? There is much more to marriage.People tend to work so hard in retaining their relationship in courtship and then become lax about it when they get married. Now that they are committed in marriage, distractions set in,opinions clash, views differ and arguments breakout and when they fail to reach a compromise, they separate due to 'irreconcilable differences'. Funny? Marriage isn't easy.

It only gets easier over the years when you both begin to cement your relationship with forgiveness, tolerance and unconditional love, with God as the foundation of your union. Let me tell you: every marriage suffers 'differences' because you and your spouse are totally two different people that see things differently. But armed with 'Forgiveness Tolerance Trust Love' and putting them into use, you can reconcile your differences to suit you both.Talk it through. Pray it through. Work it through. Note that all of these are deliberate actions and conscious efforts. Marriage doesn't build itself, it will take not one but the two of you to make it work. So enter marriage with a sense of purpose. When two spiritually compatible people are drawn together in love, a sense of purpose become their crowning glory. And what's this sense of purpose? It's knowing that marriage is beyond just having children, building a home and living happily forever after. No. It's bearing in mind that both of you were brought together, not by accident but by God's design, for a reason. Since two heads are better than one, together God has united you both in marriage that you will be a great force for Him on earth. There is a divine assignment you both ought to accomplish as one.
So don't be quick to think divorce when those troubles come.They will come but don't run away. Face them. Don't give the devil the pleasure of gloating over another broken marriage, making marriage look like a farce, unimportant and a sheer waste of time. The general analogy that marriage is a prison where people who are inside want to come out and those outside want to go in is a satanic lie. Marriage is beautiful and it is meant to last forever. Don't forget, God instituted marriage and He hates divorce.