Wanting To Choose a Life Partner?

I wouldn't know if I am expert in this but I have been there during these moments of indecision about the choice of who to marry. For me,it was relatively 'easy' because of the certain steps I took and I believe if you do the same it will work for you.
Step 1: Have the right mindset
You can never have the right mindset, the right outlook or perspective for the choice of of a spouse until you are born again. When you become born again , the way you think and act will change. As you keep studying God's Word, your mind is daily renewed (Rom 12:2). You don't see things superficially anymore like the world does. You begin to understand, as long as you want to please God, that there is more ,spiritually more, to making a choice and making the 'right' choice. Now what's the right mindset? Know first and foremost that God loves you and wants you to live to the praise of His glory. Know that you are not an accident, you are here for a purpose and know that the life partner you must choose must fit into God's plan for you. If you already have this mindset, it will help you onto the second step so that you can do it the right way and not amiss.
Step 2:Are you praying?
The second step most important life decision after deciding for Christ is that of a life partner. Now don't think God isn't interested. He is because He knows the implication of who you choose to spend the rest of your life with. So please, don't treat it trivially.

Before God, it's a serious business. It could make or mar you. Let's quote a very popular Bible verse before I go on,2 Cor 6:14 "Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?". We are not to settle for anything less than a Christian.I don't mean just a church going kind of Christian. I'm talking about a believing, practically living the Christian life kind of Christian. But how will you know this? I will soon show you .
When I became born again and filled with the Spirit, God impressed it in my heart to pray continually for the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. It may sound funny. I was only in my first year in the university and still was a long way off from marriage. But as funny as it may be,I obeyed and earnestly prayed each passing day until it came to pass. So when he eventually proposed, I wasn't in confusion at all! I simply looked him straight in the face in the dark (we had taken a stroll out that night) and simply asked him, "Why me?". Now,before this time on my own, I had already assessed our relationship and I had a very strong conviction about spending my lifetime with him. There was no iota of fear or doubt in my heart concerning sharing a future with him! So when he gave me his reason for choosing me, I didn't dilly dally (like most women do!). I gave him a straight answer, "Yes. I will marry you.". Why was I so convinced and not confused? Follow me and you will know...
Step 3:The principle of abandonment
I love this part but it appears to be the most difficult. I call it 'abandoning my will to God'. I know He has a purpose for me so God has to be in charge, not me.My part to is to yield my will to Him,to please Him in everything,even in marriage. Don't dictate to Him how you want your spouse to be. For instance, "Oh, I want him tall, huge, rich,...he must be working in an oil company, he must have a good car.....", and the list goes on and on. Do you notice how materialistic these demands sound? These things shouldn't be your criteria for choosing your spouse. Those who do end up making a big mistake. But when you have a heart like David, hungry to please God, then you will be able to set your priorities right. Forget about what you want and seek for what God wants. God can never mislead you. In doing this, you are plunging into God's special plan for you and at the same time, He will need you to take the next step.
Step 4: Trust GOD
Yeah! Believe with a deep conviction that God has your best interest at heart. Believe that the spouse He will give you is gonna be everything beautiful that will happen to your life. He may no have it all materially at first, but as you follow God's will in this, forgetting about materialism, the blessings will definitely follow. I'm not saying that you should then get married to a man with no steady job or income or no decent accommodation because you are 'believing' God. Please before thinking of settling down, a steady job and accommodation must be in place. So if you want to 'believe' God, believe Him to give you those things so you can make your wife comfortable enough when she comes. Believe Him that you will never lack and that together you will fulfill God's purpose for your lives. Put GOD first when making your choice and he will surprise you. The blessings will come as long as you have chosen to walk in the will of GOD.
These four steps worked for me and today, no matter the challenge I may have in my marriage, I don't wound up in self pity, neither do I regret being married to my man because I know I walked in God's will to choose him. There is no bias in God. Trust Him to lead you and He will.