I've heard a man say that his relationship with his wife of over 8 yrs was now more of a brother - sister relationship. The spark, the glamour , the excitement, the flare were all gone. Is that your story?There is every tendency that if you don't deliberately work at rekindling your love everyday of your married life it could grow stale and uninteresting. Just the way we keep refreshing our love for God by spending time with Him, studying Him to know Him better via His Word, it should be same in marriage. Married life will become business as usual and you begin to see your spouse as a co-tenant instead of your lover when the spark is gone.
The question now remains:what exactly went wrong, that the two of you who were so in love suddenly don't feel that way anymore? Marriage doesn't work out itself, it will take the two of you to make it work. Okay, with that said and done, let's go back in time. What happened when you met your wife? Did you woo her in order to win her heart? What and what did you do when you strove to win her love? She fell for you, didn't she? Alright, compare then and now. Are you still giving her as much attention or you've become too busy to do this?
Here's news guys, romance doesn't cost a thing. Your wife isn't basically moved by the money. What she wants is that love and attention. As you know, we women are moved so easily by words. Those seeming insignificant and inexpensive things are all you need to keep her heart singing. When you treat her like a queen, she will in turn treat you like a king. Let me let you in on a secret: If you keep giving your wife attention to show her how much you love her, she could even empty her bank account for you just because you pressed the right buttons. She will pour out her love on you unrestrained and you will never have a dull moment with her. It's pure and simple. I'm a woman, that's how I know. Return to your first love. Treat her right and she will DEFINITELY reciprocate.
Little things that cost no money can make her tingle. Like leaving a love note on the table that reads, 'You are the best. I love you' is enough to swoon her. I will not also forget to mention that she loves surprises.
Let's go over the list of the things you used to do and compare it with now...
-Do you still study her? It will help you not to take her nor her love for granted. It will make you appreciate her in every way and her essence to you resounded. Don't ever think you've known her too well or You will start looking down on the worth of her companionship.
-Do you still watch her sleep and smile when she bats her eyes open to meet yours? Wow! It will make her feel so sexy and special.It's a romantic way to start your day.
-Do you still listen to her? It depicts you are concerned and supportive of her.So don't make light her feelings. Even if she is blabbing, listen. She only needs your shoulder to lean on. Your listening to her comforts and calms her especially when she has had a bad day. Women can so easily confide in their husband every tiny details of the day. Listen and advice her where she needs it.
-Do you still take her out on romantic outings just to be alone with her, away from the children and everything else? It proves to her you still enjoy her company and gives you both room for more intimate discussions.
-Do you still suddenly give her a peck as you both cross your paths in the house? Be spontaneous! It's sweet and romantic. She will love it. Women love spontaneity.
-Do you still give her a helping hand in the kitchen or any domestic work?
-Do you still say to her 'I love you'? Professing your love to her makes her tingle.
-Do you still hold her hand in public? It will make her feel like a trophy that you wanna show off to the world.
-Do you still call her my Love, my girl and all those wonderful fond names to used to bestow on her not just in private but also in public?
-Do you still openly admire her in front of your friends? It shows her you are proud and unashamed of her.
Do you still....do you still...do you still.....There are piles and piles of it. The summary of it all is this: keep working on your love life deliberately. Woo her everyday and she will reciprocate your love. Try out new things with her. Enjoy your marriage. The spark will surely come alive again. Free yourself. Be flexible. Don't restrict what you feel for her and she will make your home heaven. Above all, trust God through all of this. Keep Him involved in your marriage and I know things will turn around for you and the wife of your youth. It's God's will that you enjoy your union.Shalom !
The question now remains:what exactly went wrong, that the two of you who were so in love suddenly don't feel that way anymore? Marriage doesn't work out itself, it will take the two of you to make it work. Okay, with that said and done, let's go back in time. What happened when you met your wife? Did you woo her in order to win her heart? What and what did you do when you strove to win her love? She fell for you, didn't she? Alright, compare then and now. Are you still giving her as much attention or you've become too busy to do this?
Here's news guys, romance doesn't cost a thing. Your wife isn't basically moved by the money. What she wants is that love and attention. As you know, we women are moved so easily by words. Those seeming insignificant and inexpensive things are all you need to keep her heart singing. When you treat her like a queen, she will in turn treat you like a king. Let me let you in on a secret: If you keep giving your wife attention to show her how much you love her, she could even empty her bank account for you just because you pressed the right buttons. She will pour out her love on you unrestrained and you will never have a dull moment with her. It's pure and simple. I'm a woman, that's how I know. Return to your first love. Treat her right and she will DEFINITELY reciprocate.
Little things that cost no money can make her tingle. Like leaving a love note on the table that reads, 'You are the best. I love you' is enough to swoon her. I will not also forget to mention that she loves surprises.
Let's go over the list of the things you used to do and compare it with now...
-Do you still study her? It will help you not to take her nor her love for granted. It will make you appreciate her in every way and her essence to you resounded. Don't ever think you've known her too well or You will start looking down on the worth of her companionship.
-Do you still watch her sleep and smile when she bats her eyes open to meet yours? Wow! It will make her feel so sexy and special.It's a romantic way to start your day.
-Do you still listen to her? It depicts you are concerned and supportive of her.So don't make light her feelings. Even if she is blabbing, listen. She only needs your shoulder to lean on. Your listening to her comforts and calms her especially when she has had a bad day. Women can so easily confide in their husband every tiny details of the day. Listen and advice her where she needs it.
-Do you still take her out on romantic outings just to be alone with her, away from the children and everything else? It proves to her you still enjoy her company and gives you both room for more intimate discussions.
-Do you still suddenly give her a peck as you both cross your paths in the house? Be spontaneous! It's sweet and romantic. She will love it. Women love spontaneity.
-Do you still give her a helping hand in the kitchen or any domestic work?
-Do you still say to her 'I love you'? Professing your love to her makes her tingle.
-Do you still hold her hand in public? It will make her feel like a trophy that you wanna show off to the world.
-Do you still call her my Love, my girl and all those wonderful fond names to used to bestow on her not just in private but also in public?
-Do you still openly admire her in front of your friends? It shows her you are proud and unashamed of her.
Do you still....do you still...do you still.....There are piles and piles of it. The summary of it all is this: keep working on your love life deliberately. Woo her everyday and she will reciprocate your love. Try out new things with her. Enjoy your marriage. The spark will surely come alive again. Free yourself. Be flexible. Don't restrict what you feel for her and she will make your home heaven. Above all, trust God through all of this. Keep Him involved in your marriage and I know things will turn around for you and the wife of your youth. It's God's will that you enjoy your union.Shalom !
Thank you Victor n Michelle... God bless you
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