Things You Don't Know That Happen When You Cheat on Your Spouse

Over a live radio broadcast, opinions were sampled from men on why they cheat on their wives. One said there was something pleasurable about cheating and adventurous about facing the risk of being caught. Another quipped that variety is sweet. That he gets bored easily sleeping with just one woman. The other said that it's natural for men to cheat. And you, what do you think? Do you think cheating is fun? Well, it won't be much fun to you anymore once you find out the implications of it. I know some people will just laugh at this and say, "Serious? What implications? If there were, why is 'everyone' doing it?". I remember discussing with a young lady who was soon to be married and she told me her unshakeable convictions about all men being cheats. She said she was okay with it as long as her husband doesn't bring his concubines into their house to share her home. And from the opinions that I have sampled in the past,most women share this thought, unfortunately even among Christians. The world has this notion that it's normal for men to cheat. Akon, a popular secular artist, said exactly the same thing sometime ago. I disagree. I refuse to accept this devilish mentality, this seed of lies that the devil has planted in so many hearts. Men are not born cheaters. Not all men cheat. At least I speak out of experience(Wow! it's so good to know Christ!). There are still men out there that stand out. They are faithful to their spouses. So why should you settle for anything less by accepting the lie? Faithfulness brings blessings into your home and cheating brings curse. Stay with me a bit and I will expatiate.

Sexual Immorality is like a strange woman dressed as a harlot(indecently) with a crafty or deceptive heart. She is loud and rebellious, wandering around and lurking in every corner. She has a seductive tongue and body language. She lures you with the wonders and intrigues of sex; of how beautiful and heavenly the experience will be. Listening to her lies, you are blinded from the repercussions of what will happen as soon as you give in to her flirtation. Pro 7:21,22 "With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, with flattering lips, she seduced him. He immediately went after her as an ox goes to the slaughter...".
At the that time when you are tempted, your whole body and emotions are crying, "Go!Go!Go! Just do it and be over with it.There's no harm in enjoying it this one time. 5 minutes and you are done. God is merciful. He will understand, after all body no be wood.", and your hormones are raging for gratification.Have you ever been at this point? Sex is so easy to give in to but in the end it leaves you stained and full of regret.So the best way to avoid sexual immorality to stay away from it. Sexual immorality (Pro 5:9-13) steals your honor and gives the remainder of your life to the cruel one. Strangers will obtain your wealth and you will become a slave of foreigners. Afterwards, you groan in anguish and shame when syphilis(disease) consumes your body and you say, "Oh, if only I had listened!...". It reduces you to nothing because it preys on your precious life. By engaging in sexual immorality you have only achieved in destroying your own soul. You will get wounds and dishonor. You will be guilty and your reproach will not be wiped away. "Till an arrow struck his liver...he didn't know it would cost him his life...her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death." Pro 7:22,27.

To overcome, do not lust after her beauty in your heart (don't even imagine or desire it). Don't let her allure you with her eye lids(don't allow her seduce you to sin). A certain stupid young man in Pro 7 strayed close to her house and 'there' she met him. This stupid young man had no understanding. He put himself in a vulnerable position 'there' thereby making himself an easy prey to sexual sin. If this young man didn't go down that road, he would never have been tempted neither would he have fallen for it. But the first mistake he made was to venture close.To keep the strange woman far from you, walk in understanding by hiding God's Word in your heart. It will keep and counsel you. Stay away from anything (books, mags, internet etc) and anyone that poses as a potential highway to the harlot. Have nothing to do with her. You may ask, "How possible is it to keep away from her when she is everywhere?" or "Is it possible to be sexually pure in our world today?". It is absolutely possible to keep away from sex and it's possible to be sexually pure. Pro 4:23, "Above all else,guard your affections...stay away from her. Look straight ahead." Also 5:8&9, "Run from her! Don't go near her house lest you fall to her temptation...". A large part of overcoming sexual sin depends on you.

But you can't do it alone. You need God. Discipline can't keep you from it. You are a human with limitations. Take advantage of the limitless grace of God through Jesus. Also surround your self with friends of like minds.

When you all share your various individual challenges, how you all have overcome it and even the mistakes you have made, you are encouraged in this purity walk.
Pro 6:27,28 "Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not seared?". If your answer is no, then it's not possible for you to cheat on your spouse and go free.