Unmarried Ladies: 'Don't's for a Permanent Relationship

After having laid out the dos in my other publication, it's only appropriate that I should spell out the don't s also. Knowing this will help guide your decision in settling down with the man of your dreams . Check these out, 3 tips:

Tip 1: Don't Lead Him On!
It doesn't make sense when a lady meets a guy and allows him spend both time and money on her, when she isn't even interested in him. Ladies love attention, I know. I personally love it. But we also have an ability to sense when a guy may be interested. He may even have told you severally about how he feels about you, so you are definitely in the know. Here's what is: don't deceive him if you don't like him just because you are enjoying the attention he's giving you.Don't lead him on. Stop wasting his money and time. Come out with it. Tell him you aren't interested.(You can just be friends if you want to). It's the right and respectable thing to do. Will you have to wait for him to propose and then say no to it thereby leaving him heart broken and full of regret? Doesn't it sound kind of wicked to you? I'm sure you wouldn't like it if a lady treats your own brother that way.
Tip 2: Don't Read Meanings where there are none
Women, our hearts can so easily be swayed by a man who gives us attention. I have a friend like that who loves giving women attention, not out of interest but out of courtesy. There are others like him out there and if per chance you happen to have one as a colleague, don't feel disappointed if he hands over his wedding I.V card to you tomorrow. Please please please, dear ladies, keep this in mind: If a guy has never come out plainly with his feelings for you, don't read meanings into his gestures!

You wouldn't wanna feel betrayed when he invites you to his wedding. Why should you, in the first place, feel betrayed? He never told you anything. You simply let your feelings out prematurely. I have heard such stories where a lady feels led on by a man only to be 'jilted' by a man who never even said "I like you." It's foolish. Ladies, let's wise up. God has a great guy for you out there and he will follow the due process to come get you. You are special.
Tip 3: Don't sleep with him
Now, this is the hardest part for you lovebirds. This is the point when you know he is interested in you or maybe he has even popped the question. This is a no no area. As a child of God, sex before marriage is not allowed! When you are in love with someone, it's natural to be sexually attracted to him. So to keep your love at bay, it's better you don't even start anything sexual with him. Songs of Solomon says "don't stir love'. You know why? Love is wild when stirred and it's difficult to quench once it's aroused. So don't go sexual just yet. It's safer. A little kiss can turn into heavy petting, fondling and then a full blown sex!. No matter how spiritual you are, you may not escape this. It is wisdom for every one who wants to please God and keep sexually pure till the wedding nite to simply stay away from sex. Also, keep from anything that would even lead to it. You both are in love and your desires are still so fresh and hot. It is indeed gonna be refreshing and rewarding when both finally get to explore yourselves on your wedding night without any form of guilt.
If a man who is interested uses sex with you as a criteria for marrying you, if he demands you sleep with him against your will, even if this guy is a youth pastor in your church, please find a way of escape. It's a sign he is not meant for you. A friend of mine once told me of a man who wanted to marry her. But there was a snag. He wanted to sleep with her by all means. She was born again and she also believed he was too but he wanted sex to be part of their relationship. I told her not to waste anymore time with him. He can't be the one. God can't bring such a man your way, who calls himself born again and at the same time has no regard for the God he proclaims. It's contradicting.
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