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Your children will provoke you once in a while, be sure of that. In anger, you may lash out at them the very first words that come to your mind. But before you do, pause. Think of the consequences of what you are about to say. Know this, that death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruits (Proverbs 18:21). Your words over your children can have great influence over their lives. So don't abuse that position but use it as the child's parent to speak good into your child's life. Many parents have spoken wrongly to their children and ended up destroying the destinies of their own... in anger. That's how powerful your words can be. Imagine a parent telling her growing child: "You will never amount to anything!" "Stupid boy! You are an abomination and a curse." "Crazy girl!" "Fool!" "You are a bad child!" Sometime ago, my little girl was being so fussy. She whimpered all

I wouldn't know if I am expert in this but I have been there during these moments of indecision about the choice of who to marry. For me,it was relatively 'easy' because of the certain steps I took and I believe if you do the same it will work for you. Step 1: Have the right mindset You can never have the right mindset, the right outlook or perspective for the choice of of a spouse until you are born again. When you become born again , the way you think and act will change. As you keep studying God's Word, your mind is daily renewed (Rom 12:2). You don't see things superficially anymore like the world does. You begin to understand, as long as you want to please God, that there is more ,spiritually more, to making a choice and making the 'right' choice. Now what's the right mindset? Know first and foremost that God loves you and wants you to live to the praise of His glory. Know that you are not an accident, you are here for a purpos

Bad company corrupts good habit(1 Cor 15:33). But it takes a process for corruption to set in. It may not be automatic but as long as you continue to sit with the scornful, you will definitely become like one of them. It's only a matter of time. So, don't sit comfy and say, "Yeah, I'm born again, filled with the Spirit. I'm not gonna be influenced by my ungodly friends!" You sit pretty and enjoy their company and don't even make a move to tell them about Jesus. It 's a dangerous ground that you are standing on! The start of the corruption process is: Step 1:Your nonchalant mindset. Don't say it doesn't matter. It matters! If it was something to be treated lightly it wouldn't even be mentioned in the Bible. Step 2: You become indifferent and tolerant At this time your friends' provocative lifestyle no more irritate you. "It's their life...", you say and you simply flow with them. Do you not know that you friends

Over a live radio broadcast, opinions were sampled from men on why they cheat on their wives. One said there was something pleasurable about cheating and adventurous about facing the risk of being caught. Another quipped that variety is sweet. That he gets bored easily sleeping with just one woman. The other said that it's natural for men to cheat. And you, what do you think? Do you think cheating is fun? Well, it won't be much fun to you anymore once you find out the implications of it. I know some people will just laugh at this and say, "Serious? What implications? If there were, why is 'everyone' doing it?". I remember discussing with a young lady who was soon to be married and she told me her unshakeable convictions about all men being cheats. She said she was okay with it as long as her husband doesn't bring his concubines into their house to share her home. And from the opinions that I have sampled in the past,most women share this thought, unfortun

Marriage is a very serious issue. So before you step into it, stop and answer the questions below. It will help you know how ready you are to go the extra mile. One: Are you getting married for superficial reasons? When you choose your spouse based on wealth, beauty, fame , affluence or just to be happy, then you will be building on a very shaky ground. These things are temporary and there is no assurance that they will last forever. Even if they do, it's in only in marriage that you will discover how foolish your choice had been.That those qualities didn't matter at all. They don't keep you married. If you choose a man because he is rich or a woman because she is beautiful, or due to her figure, then you will be making a huge marital mistake. If those things mattered, Jennifer Lopez, for example, would stay married. But she had kept going in and out of marriages. Is that not enough reason to choose carefully and wisely? Now when you depend on these outward features for

Have you ever done something that you regret doing in the past? I have. I regret passing up on opportunities because I confused my timidity for shyness. For instance, when I was in secondary school, I was presented with the golden chance of being the school's head girl. I turned it down. In university, someone walked up to me one day and asked, "Why are you unsocial ?" I merely smiled and waved it off with a few casual comments. I didn't take it to heart...as usual. That would not be the first time anyone would say such to me. I have heard it time and time again. I merely dismissed it as a figment of their imagination. Little did I realize I was hiding in the cocoon of timidity and this, unknown to me, was bad for human relations. I didn't know my little charade puts people off. I was blind. When I look back at the opportunities I missed, opportunities I would have used to make an impact in so many lives in the past, the more I see how naive and foolish I was.

1. Don't get familiar with your spouse Is this a surprising comment to make? I will clarify myself. Have you heard of the adage that familiarity breeds contempt? It's natural for a couple to get familiar with their bodies, activities and behaviors. But don't let it get in the way of how you treat or regard your spouse. Don't stop studying your partner. Don't stop wooing your spouse. Learn something new about him/her everyday. It will keep you from taking your spouse for granted and make you begin to devalue them. But do you know that one doesn't know the value of what one has until one has lost it? Let this not be your story. Daily studying your spouse keeps you interested in him/her and makes you discover better ways to satisfy them. It's just like our relationship with God. No matter how long we have been in our relationship with Him through Christ, we should never get familiar with God. If you do, you will begin to take certain things about Him for gr

1. Be Appreciative Learn to commend your spouse's effort. It will lift his/her spirit and encourage him/her to do more. 2. Be open to each other Openness ,or should I call it sincerity,builds trust between you and your spouse. Trust is a very vital marital ingredient because when it's not there can threaten or jeopardize your relationship. Secrets shouldn't exist between the two of you. See your spouse as your best friend and confidant. Feel free to tell your spouse your mind, how you feel. Share your views respectfully. Imagine what will happen when you are not open with your spouse; emotional and physical distance will be created between the two of you and a disconnection results. Distrust is built up and suspicions nurtured. When this happens, it can destroy marriages. 3. Communicate My husband taught me about the power of communication and he sure knows how to communicate! Someone like me, I can just switch off when he makes me angry. Angry? Yes. It's bound

In the church There is spiritual decay Confusion besets many They can't tell their right from their left Men steal in the name of God People are defrauded Severally putting the Lord to test Misrepresenting the testimony that they bear Adultery even among the shepherds of the flock Confusion and perplexity in the midst of the sheep Thus fulfilling the adage Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter The church is busy Busy doing nothing They are in hot pursuit for the wind Only to reap whirl wind Evangelism is pushed to the background Fundraising is brought to lime light We forget so easily That Jesus is the reason For our existence He alone is our priority Nothing takes His place Self proclaimed men of God Bring disgrace to the Name The world mocks us The Name of our God profaned Because of the very people Who ought to bear His Name Slowly,we drift away Gradually missing it The whole point of why we were called To shine forth as light Being

Love making is so important in marriage. It helps in bonding, deep intimacy and even in a spiritual connection between a man and his wife. It's a special unique way for them to express what they feel for each other, the love, the passion, the desire. Not only is it for procreation , it's also God-given for pleasure. Since sex is really important in nurturing and fostering married love, I'm absolutely sure it's God's design that married couples shouldn't be stereotyped , that is, doing the same thing over and over each time they meet. Be versatile !Be creative! Creativity makes life less boring. When your sex life becomes stereotyped , it becomes a ritualistic ,business-as-usual kind of relationship . It loses its flare and excitement. It becomes for the couple, more or less an obligation rather than a bliss.God wants you to enjoy every aspect of your married life. He wants you to enjoy each other and pour out your love on each other without any restraints . As

I've heard a man say that his relationship with his wife of over 8 yrs was now more of a brother - sister relationship. The spark, the glamour , the excitement, the flare were all gone. Is that your story?There is every tendency that if you don't deliberately work at rekindling your love everyday of your married life it could grow stale and uninteresting. Just the way we keep refreshing our love for God by spending time with Him, studying Him to know Him better via His Word, it should be same in marriage. Married life will become business as usual and you begin to see your spouse as a co-tenant instead of your lover when the spark is gone. The question now remains:what exactly went wrong, that the two of you who were so in love suddenly don't feel that way anymore? Marriage doesn't work out itself, it will take the two of you to make it work. Okay, with that said and done, let's go back in time. What happened when you met your wife? Did you woo her in order to

After having laid out the dos in my other publication, it's only appropriate that I should spell out the don't s also. Knowing this will help guide your decision in settling down with the man of your dreams . Check these out, 3 tips: Tip 1: Don't Lead Him On! It doesn't make sense when a lady meets a guy and allows him spend both time and money on her, when she isn't even interested in him. Ladies love attention, I know. I personally love it. But we also have an ability to sense when a guy may be interested. He may even have told you severally about how he feels about you, so you are definitely in the know. Here's what is: don't deceive him if you don't like him just because you are enjoying the attention he's giving you.Don't lead him on. Stop wasting his money and time. Come out with it. Tell him you aren't interested.(You can just be friends if you want to). It's the right and respectable thing to do. Will you have to wait for him

Are you ready for a permanent relationship? Are you thinking of settling down and getting married? Here are three quick tips to consider while you are it. Tip 1: Define the relationship Don't be carried away just yet. When a guy begins to shower you with attention and gifts, keep sober and refuse to believe he may be interested. If for a lingering period of time he doesn't still come forth with his intentions, please politely ask him what he wants from you. Let your relationship be defined. Is he interested in you? Does he hope that one day he could put a ring on your finger? Or does he just want a fling or be friends? Too forward, you think? No. I call it being wise in order that you don't allow your heart be swept away by a man's charm only for him to 'disappoint' you. When my husband and I started out, I simply didn't want to read meaning into his gestures just yet. Until he came out directly with his intention, only then did I open up my heart to ex

Sexual immorality is one of the easiest sins to fall into and it can be enslaving too because it is quite difficult to break off from once you give in to it.Knowing that we are in a world full of sexual temptations and distractions, how can we overcome it? There's only one thing to do: Don't wait to be tempted. Take off! Flee! Like Joseph, run for your life! If you have a heart that wants to please God and you ask if it's possible to remain sexually pure in a world that is now 100% sexually explicit, my answer is it's very possible. By human effort, no, but with God all things are possible. Job must have faced the same challenge so he said in Job 31:1,"I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman". And that covenant of purity kept him. Before I entered the University, I made a decision to remain sexually pure even in the face of temptations that the University life will present.I used 1 Cor 6:19 as an anchor, "Don't you rea

Do you notice a growing trend of nude fashion these days? Women feel no shame in exposing their breasts or any of their private assets for the world to see. Private things are no more kept private and every sense of morality are in quick extinction. Now, it's all about sensuality and sex appeal. Everywhere you turn whether on TV, the billboards ,posters, on red carpet even in your office, nudity is found. Day by day, the environment is getting more and more unhealthy for our children and even for you. In our world as it is, it's sex that sells. Check out the movies or the music videos, 95% of the secular entertainment have explicit materials of naked, pseudo naked or half naked women in them. You know why? That's what keeps the eyes glued to the screen. It keeps people attracted and the money rolling in. Imagine you pass by a billboard with an image of a near nude lady, it will take the grace of God for you not to look a second time. Everything sex is catchy, subtle,se

The bisexual LGBT (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Tran-sexual) coordinator in Nigeria claims that being gay is as natural as natural being left-handed ."It's in the genes. We were born this way.", they say in a bid to justify their actions. Thus they push for world wide acceptance and gradually, as it is, the world is absorbing them. The movement is fast spreading across the globe. As it spreads, so does their boldness too. Some places in the U.S.,Canada and certain other nations up to about ten nations in the world, homosexuality has been accepted and legalized. Now, if the world would legalize homosexuality, wouldn't they in the same vane do the same for pedophilia and bestiality ? Are they not in the same category? A man is sexually attracted to a man,a man is attracted to a child and the other is attracted to a beast, what's the difference? So if tomorrow a pedophile comes up pushing for legalization just like the gays are doing now, with the usual claim of being

A Nigerian celebrity,Tonto Dikeh, once admitted to a suicide attempt. Michael Jackson, the king of pop ,died in his room at 50 due drug overdose. Elvis Presley,the king of rock and roll died at 47. It was all suicide. To a lay man, these men lack nothing so they are considered comfortable and happy. But how wrong we are whenever associate happiness and comfort to materialism. Why would these celebrities even contemplate suicide in the first place? How come that in the midst of all their possessions, they still feel lonely and lost ,like most of them attest to before finally committing suicide? That means all of what the world has to offer: wealth, power, affluence etc can not satisfy. Is there something must be missing within them, something don't have that they ought to have? When there is within your life a void, it brings to you a sense of emptiness, hopelessness and despair! Nothing around you makes sense, you lose interest in life and begin to stay away from people. Even whe