Please read the Part 1here if you haven't. It's beautifully true. When I stumbled into this I was like 'Wow! I have to share.'
6. Missionary dating: Never start a romantic relationship with a guy or girl who is not a believer. Christians who do this usually justify it with the old "I know I can change him/her" line. But the opposite happens: The unbeliever changes you—after he or she has broken your heart, compromised your morals or damaged your faith.
7. Lack of healthy confidence: Some guys I know are stuck in a state of spiritual limbo when it comes to their dating life. They may admire a girl from afar, but they just can't muster up the nerve to break the ice and start a conversation. Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing." If you are going to find a wife, you don't just sit there until you are 40. Develop some healthy aggression.
8. Expecting the person you are dating to "fix" you: Too often we look to other people to bring the inner fulfillment that only Christ gives. Many singles fall into the trap of finding a boyfriend or girlfriend to heal the wounds caused by childhood trauma, their parents' divorce or their dads' addictions. Seek healing from the Holy Spirit for those issues before you commit to a serious relationship.
9. Spiritual stalking: I've met guys in church who drive by girls' houses regularly, monitor their moves and troll their Facebook pages. That's creepy. If you have to sneak around like a private detective to get a date, you need a new strategy. If a
woman tells you she is not interested in going out with you, honor her request and move on. Don't develop an unhealthy obsession. And never, never, never tell a girl: "God told me you will be my wife." That's manipulative and could fall under the category of sexual harassment.
10. Not discerning a spiritual predator: One single female friend of mine said she went out with a man who did a financial seminar at her church. Because the guy was invited to speak from a pulpit she assumed he was a man of character, but he tried to
get her into bed with him on the first date. It became quickly obvious he was an impostor. Beware of wolves. You must walk in the Spirit if you want to protect your purity and save yourself for the right person.
7. Lack of healthy confidence: Some guys I know are stuck in a state of spiritual limbo when it comes to their dating life. They may admire a girl from afar, but they just can't muster up the nerve to break the ice and start a conversation. Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing." If you are going to find a wife, you don't just sit there until you are 40. Develop some healthy aggression.
9. Spiritual stalking: I've met guys in church who drive by girls' houses regularly, monitor their moves and troll their Facebook pages. That's creepy. If you have to sneak around like a private detective to get a date, you need a new strategy. If a
10. Not discerning a spiritual predator: One single female friend of mine said she went out with a man who did a financial seminar at her church. Because the guy was invited to speak from a pulpit she assumed he was a man of character, but he tried to
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